When I was dating my husband, some people told me strange things. They said that in certain traditions, when a male visitor comes to your home, it’s expected for the wife to “entertain” the guest. At the time, I thought they were just joking. I asked my boyfriend, who is now my husband, about it. He dismissed it, saying those people were just trying to cause trouble and didn’t want us to be happy together. I believed him and brushed it off.…..For More READ THE FULL ARTICLE HERE ▶▶
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Fast forward, we got married. My husband had two wives before me, and in both my culture and his, it’s allowed to marry more than one wife, so that wasn’t an issue for me.
One day, his friend came to visit us from another state. My husband had been telling me all about this friend—they grew up together but lost contact for a while, reconnecting only recently through social media. We were all excited about his visit. I, along with my co-wives, prepared a special meal for him. Being the newest wife, I did most of the cooking.
My co-wives have children, but I haven’t had any yet, as it’s not long since we got married. We all sat down together for the meal, and the atmosphere was joyful. The man was friendly and warm, and we exchanged pleasantries, talking about many things. He mentioned that he was married with two children but only had one wife.
Our house is big, and each wife has her own room. It was my turn to spend the week with my husband—he spends a week with each of his wives. It was the third day of that week, and I was looking forward to having him with me that night.
Later that evening, my husband came to my room, as expected, but instead of spending the night with me, he told me something shocking. He said, “I want you to make my friend happy.” I didn’t understand at first. I thought I had already made him happy by cooking and being a good host. Confused, I asked him to explain what he meant. That’s when he dropped the bombshell—he wanted me to sleep with his friend.
I was stunned. I asked him if he was serious, and he said yes, claiming it was part of their tradition. I reminded him that I had asked about this before, and he had told me it wasn’t true. He admitted that he lied because if he had told me the truth back then, I wouldn’t have married him.
I asked why he wanted me to do this, especially since it was my turn to be with him, not with his friend. He said that out of all his wives, I was the most “presentable” one, and when you’re giving someone something, you give them the best. He also said I shouldn’t shame him by refusing and that he knew he could rely on me.
I pretended to agree, saying I would do it, but in reality, I had no intention of going through with it. I asked him to give me a moment to get ready. As soon as he left, I grabbed my purse, packed a few essentials into my handbag, and quietly snuck out of the house. I took a cab and left.
Right now, I’m staying in a secret location at a friend’s house. It’s been two days, and I’ve switched off my phone to avoid my husband’s calls. He’s been calling my friends, including the one I’m staying with, but no one has told him where I am.
I’m at a crossroads. Should I go back to my husband? What would happen if I did? I don’t know if he gave one of my co-wives to his friend in my absence or what might have happened. I’m seriously considering calling off the marriage.
Before I married him, I had a good job, which I had to leave to be with him. I could go back to my job, but I’m in shock that such a tradition still exists. While I’m not here to criticize anyone’s culture, this is something I can’t accept.
Thankfully, I’m not pregnant, so there’s no attachment to the marriage in that sense. I’m seeking advice from your audience—should I go back to my husband or leave him for good? What are the consequences if I return? Should I just walk away and rebuild my life?
I can’t believe this is happening. Is there really a culture that practices this? If anyone knows, please share in the comment section. I need advice on what to do. Should I stay in the marriage or leave?
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